Male and Female Imponderables the Fifth

POSTED BY: Tristan
UPDATED: Sunday, May 28, 2006 11:01
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TRISTAN

Thursday, May 25, 2006 4:53 PM

DeepGirl, I generally find it easier to have relationships with females than my own. I do have several close male friends...more like brothers, actually. Being where I am, the general likes are NASCAR, football, Hooter's girls, and beer...none of these things are in the forefront of my likes or desires. Well, maybe Hooter's girls, every now and then . Seriously, though, I cook, sew, clean, and would rather discuss history than the latest game scores, so very few males around here relate to me. There are a few, and we have found each other, but we are a minority. Females, on the other hand, are a lot more complex and interesting. I am not trying to slam my fellow males, but there are times when it seems the more of them you get together, the lower the common intellect becomes. That is one reason I love being on this site. Everyone I have chatted with has been extremely articulate (naked, too?) and straightforward. IRL, this is not always the case. So, IRL, yes, I find it easier to have relationships with females than males.

Holding until you get back, Captain.

QUEENOFTHENORTH

Thursday, May 25, 2006 5:22 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by FutureMrsFIllion:
[I know it is awful to say, but I actually prefer working with men. We women are our own greatest enemy. I do not know why, but women do tend to sabatoge each other. Not all women, but enough to make life uncomfortable.

Ladies, do I speak truth?

You absolutely speak the truth. I've never really worked in an all female place, but I attended a specialized college course that was just 30 girls in all the same classes. The pettiness and backstabbing and arguing was unbelievable. I was one of the few that managed to get along with everybody. I was getting really sick of it by the end though. *shudders in memory*

Anyways, I am also looking for advice as to where to find decent available guys, as my life is seriously lacking in menfolk. Any tips?

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MAL4PREZ

Thursday, May 25, 2006 5:44 PM

Hi all! Been busy with fic and work the last few days, so many new topics!!

gender/workplace - as a woman in science, I've had some problems here. The thing I've found, especially in the past year when I've twice been in charge of fieldwork, is that men as leaders (warning - gross generalization here!!) tend to have a Plan. I have more of a direction, which I allow to shift as I go along, based on how things are going, the weather, etc.

But some of the men working for me get very distressed over this. So I have to give them a solid plan, then when things change the next day I update the plan, etc. And they seem better with that.

It seems that if I don't directly tell these guys what to do, they are eager to assume I'm clueless and try to take over. It's annoying.

Keep in mind these are scientists I'm talking about, and sometimes not the most socially well adjusted...

FMF - dating. Sigh. I'm also in a 'dead zone'. My gay best friend, who has the same difficulty I do about finding 30-something year old single men, got on match.com and has a few dates this week. Anyone have theories about that? Personal ad type things just sound scary to me.

Violence and bullying - so, I was a shy one when young, people could be mean to me and I'd never defend myself. I learned to play ice hockey in college, and somehow being the situation where large people (male and female!) are running into me and trying to knock me down kind of made me braver, physically and socially.

If you're being bullied, I highly recommend learning a martial art or a sport that involves learning to face confrontation, just so you don't go into panic mode in those situations. Hopefully, you'll never have to throw a punch (I never have) but the confidence and lack of fear will show.

Whew. More fun topics guys!

oh and copilot - many hugs and kisses! And I say go ahead and be angry. Don't stifle it, and it'll run itself out in time.

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NVGHOSTRIDER

Thursday, May 25, 2006 7:27 PM

Calling all Browncoats. I am going on a lunch date Friday and I am nervous (only a little, no big thing). Just need some encouragement. Funny, I can be in complete mortal danger, but something as simple as lunch has me nervous.

TRISTAN

Thursday, May 25, 2006 7:35 PM

NVGhostrider, all will be well! You are a suave, debonair Browncoat; unable to be fazed by a lunch date. You will woo this woman with your humor, witty conversation, and dashing good looks. She will laugh at the jokes, engage in satisfying verbal sparring with you, and will be attracted to the wonderful person you are.
Be yourself, enjoy her presence, and don't try too hard.

We expect full details upon your return!

Holding until you get back, Captain.

NVGHOSTRIDER

Thursday, May 25, 2006 8:00 PM

Thank you sir for the note of encouragement. Needless to say this is the same woman that stood me up a few Saturdays ago so my anxiety level is a little imbalanced.

And yes full details will follow.

MAL4PREZ

Thursday, May 25, 2006 8:33 PM

If she stood you up, she should be nervous, not you!

I have to say, you sound like an awesome guy. If I wasn't most of a continent away, I'd knock her down and take her place!

So there - she's a lucky girl. Have fun!

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NVGHOSTRIDER

Thursday, May 25, 2006 8:46 PM

Thanks for the ups M4P. Now I'm all amped. Looks like I'm going to the range tonight.

PHOENIXROSE

Friday, May 26, 2006 2:59 AM

Awwwww, so many people having dates! Yay!
I wanna have a date...
I will add my inquiry to the others here; where the heck am I s'posed to meet folk? I swear I've tried all venues. Not much luck with dating sites (they always look better in their personal than when I meet them, at least so far in my experience) not much luck hanging around my local hot-spot coffee shop (last time I went the only guy to talk to me ended up being a few peas short of a casserole. Really, he was out of his mind) No one talks to me at the bookstore (and here I thought hanging around the scifi books wearing my coat would be an ideal way to meet folk with some kind of similar interest) And I'm still looking for a new job that will hopefully have more interesting people. Or really, any people. Currently on the lonely graveyard shift, which I didn't mind before, but now I itch for more human contact, being so recently singlefied. Maybe I'll meet some folk when I finally get back into school? Never had too much luck with that before, but I guess you never know.
Okay, I ranted, sorry. Any advice?

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MERCURY002

Friday, May 26, 2006 8:12 AM

wow this thread is getting big fast as well, 90 posts already, how many new threads will we have to set up before we solw down?

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