I finally snapped, about time too

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CYBERSNARK

Saturday, March 11, 2006 10:00 PM

Something I've found useful (and related to yelling) is to growl.

Don't know if you can do it (it seems to be an individual thing, like tongue-rolling or being able to wiggle your ears), but I can half-close my throat and make my voice get all rumbly and raspy. If I try to yell at the same time, it comes out less as a yell and more like a roar.

Obviously, I try not to do this in public, 'cause people tend to not like being snarled at.

Quote:
Originally posted by shinytalent:
find a sport hell

Nice freudian slip.

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We applied the cortical electrodes but were unable to get a neural reaction from either patient.

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Saturday, March 11, 2006 10:12 PM

Once I snapped on my brother and almost killed him, but stopped myself, thank God. I have anger problems, and can often be seen pounding computers or lockers at school. Recently, I've begun to redirect my anger, coincidentally through a heavy bag and learning pressure point techniques.

What you need to do is analyze the pyschology of this whole incident, and like the other guys said, you have to know exactly how you feel about it. Ever need any help, here's my address.

she18@clearview.ab.ca

I think a little chaos is in order.

SIXSHOOTER

Monday, March 13, 2006 11:13 AM

Personally, I don't think you need to worry about anger management or that punk kid.
That girlfriend remark of his was the lowest, dirtiest blow and he had the cheek to use it.
He got what was coming to him.
For you to be treated like you've been by those kids, while dealing with a death, is inexcusable.
The death of a loved one is a hell of a thing.
I recently lost my Grandpa, not exactly the same thing, I know, but he was the man I most modeled myself on and to make matters worse, he did not go gentle into that good night.
Afterwards, I felt like setting the world on fire and then pissing on the ashes.

It's going to keep hurting and it’s going to be hard.
And being bipolar is gonna make it a damn lot tougher for you.
But slug it out; it is worth it in the end.
As for the kids jerking you around,
I, myself, was not a popular kid growing up, my family moved around a lot and it seemed like I was always that nerdy little new kid, and so always found myself a big target for trouble, there was a time where not a week would go by that I wasn't in a fight.
And all up I 'won' a grand total of one of those fights, and even that was a fluke.
I had a lot more pride then strength.
But, the more I fought back, the more they backed off, till I was left well enough alone.
So as rough as it sounds, what worked best for me was simply not to suffer fools gladly.
But then at the same time don’t let them take your humility.

In retrospect, what I’ve just said is probably the exact wrong advice and the posters before me are probably a lot smarter then I so take their advice first.

Ah well.

PSYCHICRIVER

Monday, March 13, 2006 2:03 PM

Wow, that sounds pretty full on. I'm sorry that things are really sucking for you.

I would suggest continuing with councelling and starting up anger management too.

PsychicRiver

"Two by two, hands of blue."
"We'll take care of each other. I'll knit!"
"I swallowed a bug."

V

Monday, March 13, 2006 2:10 PM

I say your justified in your actions to a degree, while killing him would cross the line, giving him something to think about later is usually best. (I know if the subject of a dead friend I loved came up, that person would be eating though a tube) while the school board is at fault for being overly ineffective in helping you in your problem. Just the possibly murder tendencies are a bit much. But seriously that is untolerable. I know I would snap, and I've done so on numerous occasions since first grade due to such abuse. It is the only natrual way when all other paths have been taken. But as always that ends up being the worst thing you can do.

*Again has lost himself in his own rhetoric*

Sorry folks.

Remember, Remember the fifth of November

BROWNCOATSANDINISTA

Thursday, March 16, 2006 6:18 AM

My sincerest sorrow for you Reaver. Though I've never had to deal with a loved one dying, one of my close friends died this last year. He didn't take his own life, but he got really sick because his insurance wouldn't pay for his time in the hospital. Three days later, he was pronounced dead. I must recommend for you taking your dog for a walk, and if you don't have one, someone else's, barring your being allergic. Secondly, I would recommend a Martial Art. Though this may make the times when you "snap" all the more dangerous ((Imagine a 125lb eighth grade guy throwing another, heavier and bulkier one across the school room and putting him halfway through a table and you've got the idea)) but they will become much fewer and further between. Thirdly, carry on with counselling, as has been said, because though it may seem like it sucks now, it will eventually feel better in the long run. If you have a tight circle of friends, as I was and am fortunate enough to, then talk to them as well. You may not be the most popular person in your school/town but I think all of us here like you well enough.

If anyone gets nosy...Shoot em.
Shoot em sir?
Politely.

MALBABE

Thursday, March 16, 2006 7:00 AM

Finding an outlet is absolutely paramount. Martial Arts have been mentioned, and a concern for this becoming more dangerous for you, but if I understand most of these disciplines (and I'm not even close to being any type of expert on them) their main focus is control, discipline, and calmness. You have to be centered to perform many of the tasks, which brings all of these things into play. If this helps you with the "count to ten & breath" that is always recommended in these situations, as well as giving you an outlet for the pent up energy created by this emotion, then all the better. DO NOT GIVE UP! There is help everywhere, you cannot give up just because the authority figures you've encountered are less than useless. Keep trying. Contact a mentoring agency, Big Brothers/Big Sisters, ect, and look into getting a mentor, or even, hey, being a mentor! Perhaps focusing on being a good role model, spending time with someone else who needs attention, may be an additional outlet for you.

Remember you are among friends. "NEVER GIVE UP, NEVER SURRENDER" Life's a rollercoaster, you know that better than most of us. Send good energy into the 'verse, and good energy will return. Eventually. Sometimes it just seems to take a long time...

"I aim to misbehave."

CHRISMOORHEAD

Thursday, March 16, 2006 7:13 AM

Dude, unless you're hoping for ivy league schools in the future or something, just hand out a couple of beatings. Take the suspensions and whatever comes with it, it's part of life. I don't know why anyone in their right mind would support fighting as being taboo, it's part of our nature and I for one think it's by great virtue of the fact we discourage fighting with our fists that people come to homicide and murder.

Anyone can bring up statistics as a defense, but sometimes you also gotta use associative logic. Back when my dad was younger, if two guys had beef, they fought it out and got it over with. A good number of them carried guns and knives, too, but they didn't use em in a fist fight. I'm pretty sure if you look up homicides from that time period, the numbers will be a lot lower than today, where we're forbidden to carry weapons in every state but Vermont and punished for fighting more than we've been in the past.

Just discipline yourself to decide what's fight worthy and what's not. If someone chucks something at you, you tell em to stop. If they keep on, you make them stop. Just accept ahead of time that you might lose, and that you will be punished. It sucks, yeah, but just resolve yourself to it. Life's gonna be full of times where you're punished for doing the right thing, and even if you lose 5 fights, if you keep starting them people aren't gonna want to go through the hassle.

Have you ever:
Used your teeth as wire strippers?
Given yourself stitches?
Made improvised munitions with no base supplies?
Pissed in a canteen?
Gone a month without bathing?

If so, you MIGHT just be a !HOOAH MOTHERF*CKER!

GARYPRYKE

Thursday, March 16, 2006 3:54 PM

Personally I think the kid got what was coming to him. Don't feel guilty or anything.

THEREAVER

Thursday, March 16, 2006 4:00 PM

My father actually went to see the head of discipline this morning. I don't know what was said, but something is being done about the situation.

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I'll rape you to death.
I'll eat your flesh.
I'll sew your skin into my clothes.
If you're very very lucky, I'll do it in that order - TheReaver

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