I need help! Family troubles and the like...
POSTED BY: JustShiny
UPDATED: Monday, March 13, 2006 16:37
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My girlfriend has 4 kids. The oldest 2 were 19 and 18 and they kept fighting with the 16 year old and the 8 year old. Plus they weren't helping with housework, kept inviting their waste product friends over, cleaning out the frige, etc. She asked me for advise and I pointed out.....
"You are only obligated by law to feed and take care of the younger two ya know."
She had the 2 oldest out within a week...LOLOL
(Life is now quite peaceful at her place)
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Its probably not going to give you hope and its certainly not wise advice, but...
My younger brother is 21 now, and since we both had to move back in after collage (money, bleurch!) he's reverted right back to being a teen again.
Its not quite as bad because we have his girlfriend on our side and she forces him to do stuff like wash up more, and he finally getting the message that if he wants specific food to buy it himself, but he's still got it into his head that its still my mums job to look after him hand and foot.
And I still get the backlash, unfairly.
So I just started telling him when I think he's wrong, logically and fairly and with out emotion, sticking to the facts, but always loudly and always infront of everyone. making it as unlike bullying or nagging as possible but backing up the message. And like I said, he's the message is getting accross.
Plus, i'm no angel myself, so if he's pissed off with me he does the same back, but we haven't argued or faught for a while (though the family has no issues with swearing, so to the outsider it always sounds like the prelude to a punch up between a bunch of sailors)
I suppose what i'm attempting to say is honesty and openess, get what you want to say out, and remember to iject the right degree of humor. Takes the sting out if you finish with a grin.
Swearing like a trooper is, of course, entirely optional
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OP, I had another thought... Your mom is probably dealing with that divorced mom guilt complex that is so prevalent. She may feel that she's already put you all through enough, and that she needs to be nice, not tough. It's unfortunate, but it happens.
UnregisteredCompanion, was this shout
Quote:
YOU ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO BE YOUR KIDS FRIEND!
directed at me? Where on earth did I make it sound like I am trying to be my children's buddy?
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