Hunt for the Secret Hidey Place of Nice Boys
POSTED BY: mai
UPDATED: Tuesday, May 30, 2006 17:49
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So, how goes the hunt?
PsychicRiver
"Two by two, hands of blue." 
"We'll take care of each other. I'll knit!"
"I swallowed a bug."
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Ok, so you're all right about one thing "nice" guy just doesn't cover it.
It should be the hunt for:the one that fits, the one that you know is for you, the ultra communciative, intelligent, compromisin', not afraid to stand up for himself (or anyone else he loves in a friendly manner or more), open minded, well-rounded, never wanna let you go,( but not suffocate you every single second of the day either), humble, hilarious, sensitive (but not a pushover),sometimes a bit nerd like, doesn't care what you're doing as long as you're doing it together,happens to love firefly (ok, that last ones not really a must just my attempt to make the thread relevant and would be a very humongo bonus), etc, etc, etc... SEE I'M NOT ASKING FOR MUCH.
But nice was much easier to fit into the title box.
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I hate to sound like a bastard by bringing sex into this...but hey, I AM a bastard.
Of course, it's pronounced bah-stahd...upper-class English accent-like. (Eddie Izzard, anyone?)
I have never seen you or met you...so I may be WAY off the mark here... but once again...
Intellectual chemistry makes for great friends.
Sexual chemistry makes for great one-night-stands.
The combination makes for legendary lovers.
Whatever it is, I guess something doesn't 'click' sexually with these guys.
http://burstsofstatic.blogspot.com
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Yeah, the first thing my mother asks about a girl (usually) is does she want kids? I always tell her, y'know things are going great but we really didn't get to that on the first date, mom. Yeah, I'm (kinda) an only child, and she wants nothing more than grandbabies, haha.
She usually asks the age, too...I tend to like women older than myself (i'm 23, last gf is 30), oh, and I tend to like the ballsy brazen type. That only ever gets me into trouble, though. My mother actually would ask me periodically if I was gay or not because I never had a girlfriend until I was 21. I love my mom to death, but it's kind of damaging to be asked that.
I agree on the equality thing, which is why I put it in quotes earlier. Men and women are just too different for illusions of such. I'm still frustrated with the whole first move thing, anyways. That's probably why my only two relationships that have gone past a couple dates were started by the woman pursuing me instead of the other way around. It's attractive.
I have to mention on the intellectual whore front, perhaps I'm not typical. I don't just go along with what my girl friends say all the time and do nothing but comfort them. I tend to be very opinionated on certain things (aren't we all?) and have no problem telling them what I think about what they are doing or what they should do. I've found that it helps them more to open their eyes (or at least not be the passive shoulder to cry on) than to blindly console. It's easier to be this way having been in no relationship for the better part of a year, though. Things are much clearer this way ;)
But why then do they keep coming back if I'm not the typical shoulder to cry on? I'm often told that I make people feel instantly at ease and utterly comfortable. People tell me they feel like they can trust me implicitly (and they can). Maybe the honest (and often harsh) opinions and advice are actually more appreciated than the everything's ok attitude. It's not to say that I'm gruff and grating, I'm actually more or less gentle...but I say what I think.
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Mai...you're not asking for too much. You're never asking for too much if you're asking for the one who's right for you.
This is what I used to tell folks I was looking for in a woman.
She must be a classy, intelligent, sophisticated, well-read, biker chick. It's not so important that she knows alot about everything, but that she's passionate about what she IS into, and is willing to experiment and experience everything the world has to offer.
She has to have a favorite pair of jeans that she swears she'll never part with. She doesn't have to have a supermodel body, but what she DOES have needs to be well taken of. I can't respect someone who doesn't respect themselves well enough to do self-maintenance.
She has to be perfectly comfortable in a sequined, fitted evening gown for a night at the opera, and she also has to be adventurous enough to lean over during Turandot's opening aria and whisper to me that she is wearing my favorite thigh-highs and no panties. And then change into those favorite jeans in the car after the opera while we're on our way to have a few beers at the local biker bar.
She has to recognize that foreplay starts with "Hi, how are you?" and that it can last for hours, days, weeks or MONTHS."
Noone's standards are too high if it's what they want to be happy.
http://burstsofstatic.blogspot.com
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What are you saying, Static?
You met Mai at the NCBDMPP, remember? Gunshot Kaylee? I have pictures as proof.
Serenity, First Officer of Destiny
I have a live journal: http://www.livejournal.com/users/callmeserenity/
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Oh...sorry...wasn't specific.
My 'never met you' comment was to Blackeyedgirl.
Sorry.
http://burstsofstatic.blogspot.com
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Serenity, shhh! Don't you remember it was my invisible gunshot Kaylee outfit? Nobody could see me! 
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Update aforementioned boy just shredded what we had over the 'friendship' thing. Buddy status has been returned. Go me.
So if any nice or decent or anything guys wanna come out of the cave and console me, I promise I'll pine after you until you shut me down... ;(
BTW: Just to prove I am not a horrific beastie: Okay there was a link to a photo here, but it just keeps trying to show a photo!
I think we should start a Whedon/Firefly Dating service. Maybe that would work...
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