Hunt for the Secret Hidey Place of Nice Boys
POSTED BY: mai
UPDATED: Tuesday, May 30, 2006 17:49
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YORG wrote
Nice guys are so boring, predictable, wimpy and have low self-esteem.
The majority of us, yes, probably...but I think boring is all in the perspective.
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CALLMESERENITY wrote
The problem is that sometimes we don't know a guy likes us. If he doesn't make a move, how are we to know?
This has always more or less baffled me. Why, especially in this time of "equality," must men make the move? It's ridiculous.
I have to admit that I'm cynical and bitter. I will admit I'm too "nice," though. I adhere to my own code of ethics, perhaps too strictly.
To me there is no such thing as a casual relationship (barring the beginning, of course). Casual sex bothers me to the nth degree (how is it, then, that I like the character of Inara?) When in a relationship I'm the most affectionate guy, but until then I might seem cold. I've only kissed three women (and been with only the two).
I was out with my cousin the other night, and I ended up talking to this one girl for most of it. I saw her again a few days later and we hung out for a while. She started hugging on me and the like, and when I agreed with her on something she said I was only saying it because I wanted to get in her pants. I told her, believe it or not, no. She said she'd heard that about me from people.
Hey, if nothing else at least the person I really am is being recognized by people.
I've told people before that, as much as I enjoy sex, I would really rather there was no such thing. It's a complication.
Ok, I've rambled and said some really random impertinent things...I know i could continue for some time. That wouldn't be fair to the poor souls who happen upon my post, though ;D
/me listens to Remembering Never - "Serenading This Dead Horse"
oddly appropriate for this post, ha
[edit]Just followed that intellectual whore thing...yeah that's me. I have lots of girl "friends" that use me in such a way. I especially love it when they say they wish that men like me were even a little common and why can't they find someone like me, when they know well that I'm with no one. I always feel like yelling "hey, i'm right here, y'know?" Ok continued rant mode must end...haha
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inch towards daylight
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You mean to tell me the secret hidey hole is on the tree? Yea, I can see that... I guess its true you never see what's right in front of you. There are some definite nice tree folk men.
*Vows to spend a lot more time getting to know the nice tree folk men*
I agree hottness has nothing to do with niceness. Self confidence, and also on the top of that list is sense of humor (the ability to act silly at any given moment is very attractive)oh and a bit of nerdiness is nice too.
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A guy may be hotter than Sean Maher (is it possible?)
No, it's completely impossible
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But that's me, I'm bitter, with cats. ;) Sadly, it doesn't stop me from liking boys!
Same here. I feel your pain. That's the whole point of the thread, we shouldn't have to give up and we should find someone who just fits. Its not easy, but it will be worth all the trouble once we find him.
(Whoa. That was me being very optimistic, someone write it down cause it might not happen again.)
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duly noted and recorded ;D
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This is not to say all nice guys suck. There are a few left out there who haven't been crushed under the heel of some satanic harpy. But I think those few may be hiding in caves or something, cos they don't seem to come out much.
*Hears a commotion outside the cave*
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well i've had the evil harpie thing happen to me, but apparently i'm still "nice" that's what i keep getting told. most women i know say i look like the bad boy, but am actually the nice guy. i'm in no way trying to boast so i'm sorry if it came off that way.
"mine is an evil laugh"
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Originally posted by chrisisall:
Here's another: watch Somewhere In Time(Christopher Reeve, Jayne Seymour, 1980) with a guy and see if he cries at the end. Any guy that don't cry- hit the ejector button.
Chrisisserious
That reminds me of a story...
When I was in elementary I spent the night at a friend's house. His mother sat us down the next morning and put Somewhere in Time on while we ate breakfast (knowing what I know about the family, it was probably on Beta). Kind of confusing for a nine year old but it did lead to a crush on Jane Seymour that has lasted to this day and an appreciation for Rachmaninoff. Oh, and a compelling desire to rent the movie every so often. I wonder if it's too late to put on the soundtrack? Where's my headphones...
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mai wrote:
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Same here. I feel your pain. That's the whole point of the thread, we shouldn't have to give up and we should find someone who just fits. Its not easy, but it will be worth all the trouble once we find him.
(Whoa. That was me being very optimistic, someone write it down cause it might not happen again.)
Hi Mai :)
Well I like your appraoch to the whole situation. It is tough and it is so much easier to go brutal on the world and decide to give up on it all.... and I must say for my part I had pretty much resigned myself to this fact....
However, were it not that I've viewed all my past failings with a great deal of humour and slapstick I'd maybe have gone completely nutts! Hey I may even be so now, how would I know?... When you find yourself being dumped because your girlfriend says:
"Why don't you get angry??!!! I can't stand it that your so nice all the time!!!" while sobbing her eyes out... It does cloud your judgement some. Leaves you very few places to go. Except maybe the cuckoo house or the world of 'care free' and 'hide it under the carpet' type humour.... I could go on but really... when it's presented in list form it looks less funny.... more....like I've been walking around with a bullseye on my head.
Thing is though believe it or not all this happens for a reason, at least it has for me, for without it all; the slapstick, the ridicule,the endless having the girl you care about crying on your sholder about the guy she cares about, not caring about her, but that she slept with him anyway because because because KABOOM!!! There went my heart!!BTW!!! Don't worry I'll clean that up later when you've gone!! In fact I wont be needing it again anyway so yeah go ahead tread all over it, on your way out, it wont matter....
Without all of this. I wouldn't have met the person I'm with now....and I'm kinda glad for that.
Of course I had to travel 10870 miles to Australia to find her, but find her I did, and it's all down to nothing more than serendipity!
That's all anything is down to. Sheer blind luck! Nothing more, there's no skill, no fashioning of circumstances, or creative praying, no voodoo, or witchcraft, no conjuring of the heavenly spririts or clever 'understanding of the opposite sex' or a particular attitude to adopt when talking to the opposite sex.
No
Just luck.
..And we are all entitled to a little of that from time to time.
The
Somnambulist
www.cirqus.com
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This is a brilliant thread. Clever.
Cut's right down the core of every male who posts here (cept for maybe me). Mai, you a psychologist?
Ain't takin the bait.
I side with Mal ~ whores full of feminine wiles, the whole damned lot of them.
XG
No such thing as gravity. The "Earth-that-was" just sucks.
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yep that's me brilliant as can be. nope not a psychologist, but i wanna be when I grow up. i knew i'd put those 5 years of school to good use at some point and this must be it!
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whores full of feminine wiles, the whole damned lot of them.
but that's why you love us so much!
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