Hunt for the Secret Hidey Place of Nice Boys
POSTED BY: mai
UPDATED: Tuesday, May 30, 2006 17:49
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Mai, nice guys come in all shapes and sizes. Not all nice guys are wimps. As far as I'm concerned, a nice guy is a combination of necessary traits.
#1) Be a gentleman. This doesn't mean you have to open every door, but it wouldn't hurt.
#2) Be romantic. Remember birthdays and Valentines day, but don't over-do it. That just comes across as cheesey.
#3) Know what compromise means. If it's all about you, then you are not a man, you are still a boy.
#4) Self confidence. Stand up for yourself when you are right. This means standing up for your girlfriend/wife too. Even from your buddies. This doesn't mean you have to fight everybody, but if it's unavoidable...
I've been accused of being a "nice guy". Sometimes I don't like the label, other times, I'm flattered, but I never, EVER, go looking for the praise.
So, If I may be considered a nice guy...I hang out at the softball diamonds. But don't take my word for it.
Safeat2nd, Chief Handyman of Destiny
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Originally posted by chrisisall:
Here's another: watch Somewhere In Time(Christopher Reeve, Jayne Seymour, 1980) with a guy and see if he cries at the end. Any guy that don't cry- hit the ejector button.
Chrisisserious
Can I add a movie that that? Iron Giant. I'm absolutely serious.
The only time I've ever seen one of my guy friends cry is during that movie.
It's bizarre, but effective.
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Uh huh, I agree. There are many out there, and Iron Giant is definitly one.
The Abyss is another; if a guy isn't moved to tears by what Ed Harris types regarding his wife on the way down the trench, he ain't no kind of romantic (a desirable trait of the so-called 'nice guy').
Chrisisall*snif*
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Hmmm...Mai, in respose to DreamTrove's suggestion about roll playing: we do hang out on the TREE. That's role playing, isn't it?
And I like Safe's suggestions. They are all very true, and are things that most women look for and find attractive.
A guy may be hotter than Sean Maher (is it possible?) but if he's insensitive or unwilling to compromise or treats you poorly, it's never going to work out. And self confidence is a major turn on.
Serenity, First Officer of Destiny
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Nope, that's collective story telling....
ya ya that's the ticket...
Not role playing...story telling...role playing requires some sort of dice right? RIGHT??
Safeat2nd, Chief Handyman of Destiny
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No I'm not... I'm a very bad man.. 
That leaves me out.. 
Smaug..
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Dunno if you're a very bad man, but you're definitely a very bad dragon.
Bad Dragon! *shakes finger at Smaug*
Serenity, First Officer of Destiny
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Originally posted by safeat2nd:
Nope, that's collective story telling....
ya ya that's the ticket...
Not role playing...story telling...role playing requires some sort of dice right? RIGHT??
Yes, I like that. Collective Storytelling.
Having the same troubles coming to grips with your newfound nerd reality that I am?
Serenity, First Officer of Destiny
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Originally posted by safeat2nd:
role playing requires some sort of dice right? RIGHT??
You might be confusing "role playing" with "roll playing."
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*rolls eyes at Spinny's bad pun*
Serenity, First Officer of Destiny
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