Club Confused
POSTED BY: KaySky
UPDATED: Thursday, March 31, 2005 04:54
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I know it may be a continuation of a discussion that others have tried to stop but I feel compelled to respond.
My deepest apologies Zoid. I may have taken the joviality of this thread a little too far and unintentionally dismissed your perfectly fair question. I confess the answer to it is one that will probably allude us for a good long while.
The closest I feel I have come to an answer lies in the fact that the people we love can hurt us, intentionally or otherwise, and people tend to avoid getting hurt. On the other hand I do not agree that hate is easier than love. It is tireing and demoraliseing to hate a person, simply because of the type of emotion hate is. Not that I can say I have much experience in the matter. I'm much more of a "lets ignore each other 'till we go away" kind of person.
There are very few people I can say I have ever hated and I have certainly never hated anyone on first sight. However one of my supervisors at work has prompted this response from me recently. In normal every day work life he is a perfectly nice guy, we may not always see eye to eye on everything but where would be the fun in that? Take him out of a work situation and supply him with large quantities of beer and it all changes. He genuinely scares me and I will go to great lengths to avoid him when he has been drinking. He is abusive and violent and he doesn't seem to understand why he frightens me so much. I would not go so far as to say I hate him though. I do however hate the person alcohol turns him in to.
I was once told by my Mum that every stranger is a friend you have not met yet. Whilst I would like to believe this is the case I, and many others, have been hurt too many times to really apply it to our lives. It takes a long time for me to trust soemone and a fraction of that time for them to loose that trust. To be initially wary of people leaves me less vunerable and whilst I understand this may mean I am not instantly likeable, I also know it means I don't get hurt quite so often. It's a self preservation thing. I tend to believe my loyalty to those people who have taken the time to earn said trust more than makes up for any initial coldness I may have shown them.
I can only speak from personal experience but it seems to me that human beings like to blame bad things on others. To an awfull lot of people placing blame on someone who has caused them, or someone they love, pain or suffering seems like a way to cope with the situation. They do not always think about whether it is a productive thing to be doing.
These are just some of the thoughts i had whilst reading your responses. Thank you for making me consider such an important question.
Alison
"If nothing we do means anything then the only thing that means anything is what we do"
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While it did take me ten minutes or so to learn the knack of seeing those 3D dot pictures, I did manage it. What was a lot more fun, though, was learning how to write software that could take an equation (or, eventually an image) and generate the dot-photo. There's some pretty cool math involved there, all of which I've completely forgotten. Hmm, I wonder if I still have the code lying around somewhere?
--Bleyddyn
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I see those things...but i'm weird...so perhaps it doesn't count.
www.thatweirdgirl.com
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Can we not revel in our cyber-love?
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Originally posted by thatweirdgirl:
...but i'm weird...
As if 'men should wear more mascara...' wasn't proof enough of that.
--Bleyddyn
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Originally posted by Bleyddyn:Quote:
Originally posted by thatweirdgirl:
...but i'm weird...
As if 'men should wear more mascara...' wasn't proof enough of that.
--Bleyddyn
*snort*
you read my aim messages! yay!!!!!
www.thatweirdgirl.com
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Can we not revel in our cyber-love?
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Originally posted by thatweirdgirl:
you read my aim messages! yay!!!!!
I added quite a few browncoats to my buddy list when the Virtual Shindigs started. I rarely chat with any of them outside the VShins, but quite a few have entertaining status messages
--Bleyddyn
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You want confused? Why do the words "raised" and "razed" sound exactly the same when they mean completely opposite things? And when you're talking about construction, believe me, it matters!
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I'v often wonderd about that!!
-Ratboy
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I know! It don't make no kind of sense!
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