In the garden, and RAIN!!!!
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Originally posted by 6IXSTRINGJACK:
Did you beat her badly and she's taking it out on you?
Sounds like she's the alpha dog of the group, and probably a crappy one at that.
You come off as a nice person with a lot of wit here. Maybe it's time you bump her from that seat.
Do Right, Be Right. :)
I beat her three times last week. And yes she does get upset when I do.
She's the chairperson of the group and having been a school teacher, elementary. She likes being in control.
Thank you Jack. I like to think that I am a nice person and I do try not to step on anyone's toes in the group. Don't know if I want the job.
They like to talk politics sometimes and history but I usually end up correcting them on things, 1. They don't get the context of things. 2.Their facts are wrong.
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Quote:because some of the others are complaining about when I play. So she says? Do you believe her?
Originally posted by 1KIKI:Quote:
Originally posted by Brenda:
The lady who runs the mah jong group and a couple of side mah jong games is driving me nuts. Called me last night and said I'm not going in on Tuesday as I started coughing again and we all heard her. Then this morning I get a call saying that she is coming in.
It is like make up your mind but then you don't get to b&tch that you are sick. But I can't say that as over the last couple of weeks she has threatened to throw me out of the group because some of the others are complaining about when I play. So, I have to play NICE. Ugh!
The problem is that I do and I can pretty well name a couple of the ones who are the complainers.
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Quote:How can someone play NOT "nice"? Aside from not crowing every time you win or making nasty remarks about other people's playing or being a sore loser, what else are you supposed to do? Let other people win?
Originally posted by SIGNYM:Quote:So, what else does she do that's so annoying?
Originally posted by Brenda:
The lady who runs the mah jong group and a couple of side mah jong games is driving me nuts. Called me last night and said I'm not going in on Tuesday as I started coughing again and we all heard her. Then this morning I get a call saying that she is coming in.
It is like make up your mind but then you don't get to b&tch that you are sick.Quote:Confused here. How is it that she "runs" the games? Does she host them at her place? Does she maintain a schedule? Does she supply the tiles? Does she collect dues? Bring food and drinks?
But I can't say that as over the last couple of weeks she has threatened to throw me out of the group
I mean, I was the "coffee person" at work which meant I collected the dues and bought the supplies and bought new coffee-maker when the old one crapped out but there was a set of responsibilities along with that. I would never say I was "the Scrabble person" at work because it just depended on who dragged out the Scrabble board and rounded up another player or two or three.Quote:
because some of the others are complaining about when I play. So, I have to play NICE. Ugh!
I guess I just don't understand the dynamics.
But now that yo have a place of your own, is there anything preventing you from hosting your own mahjong games?
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Pity would be no more,
If we did not MAKE men poor - William Blake
You idiots have been oppressing the entire sexual spectrum as long as you have existed. I can't wait for the day your kind is dead - WISHIMAY
Well, I dislike being treated like I am 5years old when I am playing. And that involves a few things about her mannerisms.
She's the chairperson of the mah jong group and everyone agreed to let her lead it.
I'll admit that I get frustrated with the way that I play or the tiles and remarks might slip. They take it all personally but then when I say nothing which this lady thinks is wrong, they can make all the remarks they want and I have to sit there and take them.
Unfortunately SIG, there is. I don't own my own set of mah jong tiles. Wish that I did.
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Originally posted by Brenda:Quote:
Originally posted by 6IXSTRINGJACK:
Did you beat her badly and she's taking it out on you?
Sounds like she's the alpha dog of the group, and probably a crappy one at that.
You come off as a nice person with a lot of wit here. Maybe it's time you bump her from that seat.
Do Right, Be Right. :)
I beat her three times last week. And yes she does get upset when I do.
She's the chairperson of the group and having been a school teacher, elementary. She likes being in control.
Thank you Jack. I like to think that I am a nice person and I do try not to step on anyone's toes in the group. Don't know if I want the job.
They like to talk politics sometimes and history but I usually end up correcting them on things, 1. They don't get the context of things. 2.Their facts are wrong.
I hope it works out. I don't really have any advise to give you beyond that. I generally just avoid situations like that because in the past I've ended up letting things just stew inside of me until one day I explode. Sometimes it ended in just a lot of yelling, but other times I've ended up beating a few people within an inch of their life. It's not something I'm proud of, and once the red clears from my eyes it's instant regret. It's part of the reason why I live the loner life is because of my anger management issues.
Maybe Sigs and Kiki have some good advice to give you.
Do Right, Be Right. :)
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Front part of my porch is now water tight. Hard to explain how I did everything without pictures, but all the pieces fell into the right place and this solution is better than I could have ever hoped for going into it. It would probably survive the next 5 years without any further maintenance. :)
Tomorrow is the last warm day. Need to make the screen door area watertight and see if I can get the vinyl siding back up. If not, going to need to wrap the base of the back of the house with plastic too until spring. Also going to see if I can fix the flat on the snowblower tomorrow. I should have time for all of that. The front took longer than I had hoped, but I knew that wasn't going to be an easy job solo. Everything else should be a lot easier.
Do Right, Be Right. :)
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Originally posted by 6IXSTRINGJACK:Quote:
Originally posted by Brenda:Quote:
Originally posted by 6IXSTRINGJACK:
Did you beat her badly and she's taking it out on you?
Sounds like she's the alpha dog of the group, and probably a crappy one at that.
You come off as a nice person with a lot of wit here. Maybe it's time you bump her from that seat.
Do Right, Be Right. :)
I beat her three times last week. And yes she does get upset when I do.
She's the chairperson of the group and having been a school teacher, elementary. She likes being in control.
Thank you Jack. I like to think that I am a nice person and I do try not to step on anyone's toes in the group. Don't know if I want the job.
They like to talk politics sometimes and history but I usually end up correcting them on things, 1. They don't get the context of things. 2.Their facts are wrong.
I hope it works out. I don't really have any advise to give you beyond that. I generally just avoid situations like that because in the past I've ended up letting things just stew inside of me until one day I explode. Sometimes it ended in just a lot of yelling, but other times I've ended up beating a few people within an inch of their life. It's not something I'm proud of, and once the red clears from my eyes it's instant regret. It's part of the reason why I live the loner life is because of my anger management issues.
Maybe Sigs and Kiki have some good advice to give you.
Do Right, Be Right. :)
No worries Jack. Sometimes I just need a little moan.
I just basically put them on ignore. It's not my fault I can intimidate them.
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Dying clock radio, so it will go to the electronic recycling in a day or so.
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Quote:Ok, but still confused. If what irritates you is "mannerisms" then she does the same to everyone all the time. Tho it may be incredibly annoying (example, someone pointing their finger to the sky whenever they want to emphasize a statement) it's not directed at you or anyone in particular. So if it's truly a mannerism you shouldn't feel annoyed by it because it's all "her" and not "you".
I beat her three times last week. And yes she does get upset when I do.
She's the chairperson of the group and having been a school teacher, elementary. She likes being in control.
Thank you Jack. I like to think that I am a nice person and I do try not to step on anyone's toes in the group. Don't know if I want the job.
They like to talk politics sometimes and history but I usually end up correcting them on things, 1. They don't get the context of things. 2.Their facts are wrong.
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Well, I dislike being treated like I am 5years old when I am playing. And that involves a few things about her mannerisms.
OTOH if what she's doing is directed specifically AT YOU, then it's not a "mannerism", it's an intentional comment (even a non-verbal one) and possibly an insult. In which case, it would be perfectly appropriate to feel annoyed.
So, what does she do, specifically?
Quote:everyone? You too?
She's the chairperson of the mah jong group and everyone agreed to let her lead it
Quote:That's a tellingly passive way of describing your behavior.
I'll admit that I get frustrated with the way that I play or the tiles and remarks might slip...
Quote:do you deliver it personally?
They take it all personally
Quote:Well, this all sounds pretty toxic. How did everyone seem to have gotten so far away from just having fun?
but then when I say nothing which this lady thinks is wrong, they can make all the remarks they want and I have to sit there and take them.
Quote:I just looked up the price of tiles, they're not THAT expensive. Something else is going on here. Maybe you should quit this group which seems so toxic and do something else to get out. Yanno, look around develop your options, and then join a volunteer group, take a class, or something. See how it goes, and then quit your mahjong group if you like the new group.
Unfortunately SIG, there is. I don't own my own set of mah jong tiles. Wish that I did.
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Pity would be no more,
If we did not MAKE men poor - William Blake
You idiots have been oppressing the entire sexual spectrum as long as you have existed. I can't wait for the day your kind is dead - WISHIMAY
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I didn't notice the part about talking politics on first read...
Yeah. I probably wouldn't do that if I were you.
I'm not going to pretend that I don't ever engage in political talk in the real world, but I'm extremely picky and choosy about where I do and with who. I never talk about it at work. I'd imagine that if I did any extracurricular activities for enjoyment that I wouldn't do it there either. Basically, if it's at a place that I have to go back to regularly or that I enjoy going back to regularly, I'm not going to make that situation uncomfortable for myself in the future by engaging in these talks.
On an individual basis, I only ever open up about my own views with people who freely talk about it and I have a good feeling that we're both on the same page already. I do not like debating differing political views with people in the real world, simply because of the ease at which it becomes a topic of hostility. Everybody in 2019 goes into these things with a lot of preconceived notions about people who disagree with them politically, even though in most cases none of them are true on an individual level.
If you're the minority opinion in your group, and you're telling them that they are wrong, they're likely taking that as a personal insult even if you didn't mean for it to be (and it is quite possible that you in fact DID mean it to be).
In you Mahjong group case, you don't even have to be the minority opinion. If this woman you're talking about is the self-made queen of the group with no opposition, it doesn't really matter what the rest of them think if they're all going to have her back.
I dunno. I guess long story short now that I realized that politics were involved I could update my previous lack of suggestions to just advise that you try to avoid the politics and maybe have other things to talk about and change the subject up on them.
If nothing else, I can't imagine that it's very fun to play a game while talking about all of that bullshit anyhow.
Do Right, Be Right. :)
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Sorry... stupid double post because FFF.NET is completely broken these days.
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