In the garden, and RAIN!!!!
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Quote:Hey Brenda,
Originally posted by Brenda:
Don't mind me. I can get a little maudlin at this time of the year. Weather is changing, summer is making room for fall.
Not to be too uncaring but ... have you ever thought you might have seasonal affective disorder? I know I do though mine doesn't kick in till the days get much shorter. But whatever happens at that time gets me down in a way it normally wouldn't. OTOH one of the people I used to work with seemed unusually sensitive and would start to get downright morose at this time of year like clockwork. (And despite the fact that he would go through the same cycle every year, year after year, when he was in that state he it was as if it was all new and never happened before. Because it was all about the ONE PARTICULAR THING he happened to be circling around, and that ONE PARTICULAR THING had never happened before. Sigh. There was just no pointing out to him he'd been 'there' before.) For me anyway, there's some comfort in recognizing that it's not me per se and so it's not a permanent thing; it's just an impersonal process to get through until spring arrives. Anyway, I'm just wondering ...
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So..... what do you do about SAD?
I know for sure I've "got it". Not very cool when I live in a place that is virtually dead 4 months out of the year. Probably not the best thing in the world to also have such a crappy means of heating my home and it's always so cold during the winter here too.
Hey! Brenda!
Just try to focus on that. You're in a new place this winter. No more bitchy, horrible landlady keeping you from heating the place to comfortable anymore.
Fingers crossed that everything is salted right and you don't ever have to worry about slipping while walking outside this year either. 
Do Right, Be Right. :)
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SAD is triggered by shorter days and lower light intensity. If this is truly SAD, and not just associative depression (ie bad things happen[ed] in the winter months leading to a long-term association of winter with depression) then it should respond to "light therapy" ... that is, finding a lamp with the right intensity and spectral distribution to trick your brain into thinking that it's still summer.
This is from the Mayo Clinic website, a very credible medical organization that researches and treats some of our less-common maladies
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Seasonal affective disorder treatment: Choosing a light therapy box
Light therapy boxes can offer an effective treatment for seasonal affective disorder. Features such as light intensity, safety, cost and style are important considerations.
https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/seasonal-affective-diso
rder/in-depth/seasonal-affective-disorder-treatment/art-20048298
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Pity would be no more,
If we did not MAKE men poor - William Blake
You idiots have been oppressing the entire sexual spectrum as long as you have existed. I can't wait for the day your kind is dead - WISHIMAY
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Originally posted by 6IXSTRINGJACK:
No worries, Brenda.
I can empathize. :(
My mom is pretty excited that I've rekindled the friendship I have, but there's one friend in particular that she's known since we were both in Kindergarten that she hopes I will get back with.
I told her that it's hard. Most of my friends are married with a few kids and he's one of them. The last time we all partied together was a New Years eve maybe 6 or so years ago. Most depressing night of my life. All the married couples and soon to be married couples, even some of the kids there. I was the only single one there. Awkward as hell. They made me feel welcome for sure, but I'd never been so self conscious around people who were my friends in my entire life. I've spent every New Years Eve alone since then.
I love being single 99% of the time, but that 1% of the time really sucks.
Do Right, Be Right. :)
I'm in touch by phone or FB with friends from High School. And they either had children out of wedlock, 1 male friend did then broke up with the mother and never really saw his children after that. Made me angry. 1 female friend I have known her daughter since she was born and know her son. Great kids both of them and I love them to the moon and back. But yeah hard to see that.
Another lady I know is all excited to go to Thailand to visit her daughter who will be working there for another year. I couldn't say anything to her about that because I did once to her husband and he just sat and looked at me. Couldn't wrap his brain around why that makes me feel bad.
As I said I wanted the mate, the kids and the career. But not meant to be.
Jack, I have had lots of times that I like being on my own but by my choice. Now I am just lonely at times.
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Quote:
Originally posted by 6IXSTRINGJACK:
Hey! Brenda!
Just try to focus on that. You're in a new place this winter. No more bitchy, horrible landlady keeping you from heating the place to comfortable anymore.
Fingers crossed that everything is salted right and you don't ever have to worry about slipping while walking outside this year either.
Do Right, Be Right. :)
Jack, that is what I am doing. I am thinking about what I can do to fix this place up for Christmas and as the weather cools down I will be able to heat this place if I want or have heat travel up from down below me.
Walking should be pretty good as I am up in the main shopping area and there are a lot of apartment buildings around but so far the weather people aren't calling for snow in my area though I do need to get a new set of winter boots just incase. And I still have my cane for getting to work.
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Any way I am out in the rain. Errands to run.
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Hope it's nice and toasty for you this year, Brenda. :)
Man... even with all this furniture out of the house there's still a lot to move around when you're trying to do a deep clean on a floor you refinished 7 or 8 years ago but haven't cleaned since.
Murphy's oil and Pledge and the like are not good for wood, contrary to popular belief. They're fine if you've got something beat up that you're not going to bother getting refinished, and they can polish them up nice (like the first floor hardwood that I never did and don't intend on refinishing), but on nearly pristine floors like the ones upstairs, all you need is a little dish detergent.
This antique stuff is HEAVY, especially when the drawers are full. I don't think I'm going to move any of it even to its temporary place closer to the walls but far enough away to put the trim up. They've all got pads on the feet, but I'm still worried about scuffing up the floor real good if I don't have a second set of hands for the task.
I did put the bed back together though, and moved the futon into the small room. Just waiting for it all to dry so I can move some more smaller stuff around and get everything clean.
Taking an easy day today though otherwise. Going to help my friend out at his place tomorrow and possibly Sunday. Then I've got a lot of work to do on the porch next week before we put the floor back in.
Do Right, Be Right. :)
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It should be Jack. Which will be nice.
I got all my errands run for today even in the rain that we got up here this morning. Dry now that I am back.
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I'm looking forward to hearing about how much nicer this winter is for you Brenda. I felt so bad about what you were going through before and helpless to do anything about it. So happy for you that you were able to finally get into a nice place.
Out to meet my friend and help on his house. Have a good one.
Do Right, Be Right. :)
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I wonder BRENDA, how long were you living in that hell-hole? Because living in a dark cold unfriendly place for any length of time would be enough to make anybody sad!
But I'm so happy to think of you now in a place that can be warm and cozy and with enough room for your things so you can be reminded of who you are and can live a full life and enjoy yourself!
I know you play mahjong. Could you host some games yourself? Wouldn't THAT be fun?
I love Christmas! I especially love Xmas lights; not the big fancy overdone 100,000 light bulb display but the string of lights around the livingroom window that tells passersby that you think enough of Xmas, and of them, to put in some effort to spread Xmas cheer. I hope you put up a few lights, for yourself and for everyone else. Some day when this board is a safer place I'll tell you what that meant to me and how important it was.
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Pity would be no more,
If we did not MAKE men poor - William Blake
You idiots have been oppressing the entire sexual spectrum as long as you have existed. I can't wait for the day your kind is dead - WISHIMAY
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