Interesting Turn of Events (My Life in a Nutshell)
POSTED BY: tethys
UPDATED: Tuesday, December 14, 2004 13:54
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if I get the story and the math in it right I don't see what everyone is bitching about.
you're 25 now? your sister is 19 and her boyfriend is your age, so they are all of 6 years apart? and that's a problem? I'd say it looks kinda funny to think of a 19 year old boy with a 13 year old girlfriend. but it really depends on the boy and the girl in question. girls are usually much more mature when in their teens than boys. so 13 and 19 might be a good match for some early developing girl. they stayed together for 6 years and still are ok? don't you think that's kind of the prove that it works for them?
if she quit school because of him and stays at home all the time and has no friends and isn't allowed to go out without him or whatever there might be a problem but the age difference alone is really a pretty small one, don't you think?
most of the men I was with have been more than 6 years older than me and I can't see anything wrong with that. I was pretty much grown up at the age of 14/15 whereas the boys my age were mostly lanky versions of little kids playing. so either find the one in a thousand who is even interested in a relationship or go with someone older who is beyond the playing state.
and brothers who haven't been there for 7 years especially if that's the years from 12 zu 19 pretty much don't know their little sisters anymore. might be you should keep an open mind and try to get to know her first. she's no kid anymore, she's grown up to be a young woman in the last 7 years. she might even be a completely different person now. there's a huge difference between 12 and 19. might be the 7 years that most change a person.
just my thought
Idefix
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Originally posted by Idefix:
if I get the story and the math in it right I don't see what everyone is bitching about.
you're 25 now? your sister is 19 and her boyfriend is your age, so they are all of 6 years apart? and that's a problem? I'd say it looks kinda funny to think of a 19 year old boy with a 13 year old girlfriend.
Well..in the world I live in, a 19 year old with a 13 year old is considered...well..Statutory Rape. IMHO there is a HUGE difference in folks dating based on WHEN they start dating. If it was a 19 year old and a 26 year old..ok..I might turn my eyes away from the situation. She'd be , as an old friend of mine puts it "Big enough, old enough and ugly enough to make her own decisions". If it were me and I found out my sis was with a guy who was 7 years older then she and she was only 19 and had been "seeing" him for 6 years. I'd be having a long "talk" with him, there are ways to apply pressure without being overtly obvious about it (Like introducing her to someone who has the same interests as she etc..etc..). I'd have a hard time letting the guy be alone with any of my kids ever. However ultimately, it's now up to her, she's old enough to make her own decisions. I'd be willing to bet eventually she will move on. I'd be careful NOT to put her on the defensive, but you can bet your ass I'd be watching the situation closely. If anything untoward happened, I'd be needing some ice for my knuckles and he would be needing a colostomy bag:)
Keep your chin up Tethys. Your wife is right in the respect that there isn't much you can do about it now, so don't lose sleep..but stay vigilant.
As for being grown up at 14/15..all I have to say to that is wow! A 14/15 year old doesn't have the vaguest idea of what being "Grown up" is all about, let alone have the ability to make good decisions in terms of everyday responsibilities. Most 14/15 year olds don't have responsibilities above and beyond doing some house chores and keeping up with their schoolwork. In my opinion if you have a need to think you are "Grown up", you're not.
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