In the garden, and RAIN!!!!
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>>Sucks about the VA getting in your old man's business like that, Brenda. Interesting for you to know, but I'm glad you're still shreddin'. Time to get rid of all that crap you don't need!<<
Reading that did suck. I mean he was just trying to do right by his wife and children but the VA had to make sure that he was obeying their rules, so he wouldn't loose his army pension. Heck! Over 1 house he had to prove that me and my brother existed by sending them copies of our birth certificates.
It is interesting but upsetting too. Yeah, it is time as there is no need for any of that stuff anymore. My dad's been gone over 40years now. So, I will keep shredding until I don't need to.
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Thanks for the words of encouragement SIX. And believe it ir not, your progress really cheers me up!
So at this end dear daugther and I are marking the lines for her fancy paint job. Since this is all horizontal stripes and her bedroom has one very long wall, this is definitely a two-person job, Fortunately hubby has an 8 ft straight edge and a pretty long spirit level. She was totally unfamiliar with how to use a spirit level and unfamiliar with how to use a level and a straight edge together, so we struggled a little bit with whose hands were on what equipment but eventually we figured out a system and now she knows how use both. I plan on finishing the marking Saturday and taping two of the stripes and ... if we get done fast enough painting them as well (As you know SIX, it's always the prep that takes the longest!) If we get two of the stripes done by Sunday we can do the other two on Monday (after our dental appointment) and Tuesday, so by the end of Tuesday her room will be ready enuf to move back in. That's the goal. I'm looking forward to crossing that off the list.
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Pity would be no more,
If we did not MAKE men poor - William Blake
You idiots have been oppressing the entire sexual spectrum as long as you have existed. I can't wait for the day your kind is dead - WISHIMAY
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Originally posted by Brenda:
>>Sucks about the VA getting in your old man's business like that, Brenda. Interesting for you to know, but I'm glad you're still shreddin'. Time to get rid of all that crap you don't need!<<
Reading that did suck. I mean he was just trying to do right by his wife and children but the VA had to make sure that he was obeying their rules, so he wouldn't loose his army pension. Heck! Over 1 house he had to prove that me and my brother existed by sending them copies of our birth certificates.
It is interesting but upsetting too. Yeah, it is time as there is no need for any of that stuff anymore. My dad's been gone over 40years now. So, I will keep shredding until I don't need to.
Good for you Brenda. :)
Have you started noticing yet a feeling like you're having a weight lifted off of your shoulders?
My old man goes through something similar to what your father went through with my brother's social security disability and the other programs he's in. My brother can't do any of it himself. Recently, he had gotten them to mail out copies of any communication to both of them. The last time something important came though, it only went to my dad. So my dad called them up and "fixed" it, but the next piece that came only went to my brother. I told him that he's going to have to just have the stuff sent to him if they can't get it right. It's really no good in my brother's hands. There was something time sensitive in the last mailer that my dad had to physically drive down to his place a few weeks earlier than he had planned to to read himself when my brother said he couldn't find any dates on it.
Fortunately, my dad is very meticulous about making the plans out for how to take care of all of this stuff. When he goes, there is no way my brother will be able to do any of it himself and he will need my other brother and I to do it for him.
Guess I'm making all this room for a new mountain of paperwork when that time comes.
Do Right, Be Right. :)
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Originally posted by SIGNYM:
Thanks for the words of encouragement SIX. And believe it ir not, your progress really cheers me up!
So at this end dear daugther and I are marking the lines for her fancy paint job. Since this is all horizontal stripes and her bedroom has one very long wall, this is definitely a two-person job, Fortunately hubby has an 8 ft straight edge and a pretty long spirit level. She was totally unfamiliar with how to use a spirit level and unfamiliar with how to use a level and a straight edge together, so we struggled a little bit with whose hands were on what equipment but eventually we figured out a system and now she knows how use both. I plan on finishing the marking Saturday and taping two of the stripes and ... if we get done fast enough painting them as well (As you know SIX, it's always the prep that takes the longest!) If we get two of the stripes done by Sunday we can do the other two on Monday (after our dental appointment) and Tuesday, so by the end of Tuesday her room will be ready enuf to move back in. That's the goal. I'm looking forward to crossing that off the list.
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Pity would be no more,
If we did not MAKE men poor - William Blake
You idiots have been oppressing the entire sexual spectrum as long as you have existed. I can't wait for the day your kind is dead - WISHIMAY
Glad to hear, Sigs. I hope we're all inspiring each other to keep pressing on and getting more stuff done today that doesn't need to be put off until tomorrow anymore.
Yup. Prep work sucks, but you're going to be so much happier in the long run when it's all done that you took the time to do it.
Speaking of that... I'm meeting up with my friend to help him on the house again today. It's his inspection day. I hope they finally get off his ass with the work they've seen done and that we can make the entire outside watertight by the end of the weekend.
I'll be painting today, which I have to be honest is something I really don't want to be doing with all of my structural issues still not being tended to yet.
I'm a little concerned about my friend. We were always drinkers and partiers back in our day for sure, but he always seemed to have a real level head on his shoulders.
But recently I've noticed a few times where he's become forgetful. Like we'd talk on the phone about something one day and then a week later it's as if we never had that conversation. I chalked it up to him being extremely busy with his work and family life, and this house taking up most of his mental energy after that.
But I think he's got a drinking problem. The last time we worked I knew he had a few at the end of the day, but then he asked me to drive. He's got a nice vehicle. First, he presented it to me as "just wanted to let you take it for a spin". I told him I'm really not comfortable driving cars that aren't my own, but then he looked serious and said "please".
I said "what. You've only had a few beers. Stop being a pussy, you'll be alright".
He then told me he had like 7 or 8 all day.
What the hell. He must have been guzzling them in the garage while he was going for tools or making grout or something.
At some point I said something like "I'm the last person to judge you man.", and then he smiled and said "Maybe you should. Maybe I need it."
Uh oh. I know what that is. I'm very familiar with that behavior. Far too familiar.
Sure enough, the next morning when we were working I tested the waters and made a joking offhanded comment about maybe going easy on the beers today, to which he seemed rather annoyed that I said it. I wasn't counting, but when we went out to get coffee he picked up more beer and wasn't shy about drinking them either.
He's highly functional. He's got a really nice house, a great job, a great fiancee, he gets things
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SIX, I just hope he keeps his promise to you about fixing up your porch. You might want to ask him an occasional question about "how would he do such and such" to your porch, technique-oriented questions for your edification, and to keep that project front and center in his brain.
Yanno, hubby used to work construction when he was young. He was a mason's helper and, being big and strong they gave him the heaviest jobs, like carrying a 300-lb flue up a ladder. One time they had just put a cellar wall up but because of rain it was threatening to collapse, so he went down into the hole and tossed 1100 cement blocks up to save them in case everything caved in. He still has nightmares about being buried alive. Anyway, the point was that this particular contruction crew ran on beer. Each person probably drank a couple of six-packs OR MORE per day. (If anyone were to break open the cement blocks from their projects, quite a number of them would have empty beer bottles in them!) It was a source of energy and a way of staying hydrated, and for all the beer that hubby drank he never became an alcholic and neither did anyone else of the crew, that I know of. Maybe this is a case of that, I don't know.
It's possible his drinking is situational, and when his worries clear up his drinking will too. It's possible that he drinks only when working heavily. Or maybe he fels unwell or is on pain. Or maybe has has a problem of much longer standing, but you won't know until the construction is ended INCLUDING YOUR PORCH and you get to see him when the pressure is off. IMHO most people drink as a form of self-medication (for anxiety, self-doubt, pain or other feelings of unwellness etc). Then at some point the drink BECOMES the problem that they self-medicate for, but I don't know where your frined is at. I would probably give him a bottle of Super B Complex (either Nature Made or Nature's Choice) vitamins since heavy drinkers need a lot more B1 to process the alcohol, plus the B12 should help with his memory.
If after the construction merry-go-round stops he is STILL drinking, then I don't know what your best option is. You definitely don't want to be an enabler ... protecting him from the consequences of his drinking ... but needs some thought because you can only influence him if you manage to stay in contact.
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Pity would be no more,
If we did not MAKE men poor - William Blake
You idiots have been oppressing the entire sexual spectrum as long as you have existed. I can't wait for the day your kind is dead - WISHIMAY
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Originally posted by Brenda:
>>Sucks about the VA getting in your old man's business like that, Brenda. Interesting for you to know, but I'm glad you're still shreddin'. Time to get rid of all that crap you don't need!<<
Reading that did suck. I mean he was just trying to do right by his wife and children but the VA had to make sure that he was obeying their rules, so he wouldn't loose his army pension. Heck! Over 1 house he had to prove that me and my brother existed by sending them copies of our birth certificates.
It is interesting but upsetting too. Yeah, it is time as there is no need for any of that stuff anymore. My dad's been gone over 40years now. So, I will keep shredding until I don't need to.
Good for you Brenda. :)
Have you started noticing yet a feeling like you're having a weight lifted off of your shoulders?
My old man goes through something similar to what your father went through with my brother's social security disability and the other programs he's in. My brother can't do any of it himself. Recently, he had gotten them to mail out copies of any communication to both of them. The last time something important came though, it only went to my dad. So my dad called them up and "fixed" it, but the next piece that came only went to my brother. I told him that he's going to have to just have the stuff sent to him if they can't get it right. It's really no good in my brother's hands. There was something time sensitive in the last mailer that my dad had to physically drive down to his place a few weeks earlier than he had planned to to read himself when my brother said he couldn't find any dates on it.
Fortunately, my dad is very meticulous about making the plans out for how to take care of all of this stuff. When he goes, there is no way my brother will be able to do any of it himself and he will need my other brother and I to do it for him.
Guess I'm making all this room for a new mountain of paperwork when that time comes.
Do Right, Be Right. :)
I've been wanting to do this for years but just haven't been able to what with all the moving around and my stuff having to go into storage for a bit.
I do. It's good going through the clutter that my mom forgot about and seeing what happened around the time I was born and before.
Your brother is lucky to have you and your dad to do this stuff for him. Paperwork with ANY government agency is a pain in the butt. Doesn't matter what side of the line you are on.
My dad had a fight to get one of his pensions. My poor mom had to go on a letter writing campaign to get a copy of his birth certificate from Alberta, a letter from his oldest sister but the hospital he was born in burned down and so those records were gone. The school he attended would have been gone by the late 60s out there. Think she had to write one of his aunts as well. Good thing they still had his army discharge papers to help.
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Off to see what is causing all the feedback with my hearing aides since they have been repaired. Also need to find some small flat head screws. Gotta fix something of my mom's that I found a few days ago and I want to keep.
Later peeps.
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Quote:I am dear daughter's representative payee and will probably shortly become her (limited) conservator. Most likely SIX, your dad is your brother's conservator. When he dies, someone will have to take his place. Possibly that has already been worked out with your other brother.
Sucks about the VA getting in your old man's business like that, Brenda. Interesting for you to know, but I'm glad you're still shreddin'. Time to get rid of all that crap you don't need!- SIX
Reading that did suck. I mean he was just trying to do right by his wife and children but the VA had to make sure that he was obeying their rules, so he wouldn't loose his army pension. Heck! Over 1 house he had to prove that me and my brother existed by sending them copies of our birth certificates.
It is interesting but upsetting too. Yeah, it is time as there is no need for any of that stuff anymore. My dad's been gone over 40years now. So, I will keep shredding until I don't need to. - BRENDA
Good for you Brenda. :) Have you started noticing yet a feeling like you're having a weight lifted off of your shoulders?
My old man goes through something similar to what your father went through with my brother's social security disability and the other programs he's in. My brother can't do any of it himself. Recently, he had gotten them to mail out copies of any communication to both of them. The last time something important came though, it only went to my dad. So my dad called them up and "fixed" it, but the next piece that came only went to my brother. I told him that he's going to have to just have the stuff sent to him if they can't get it right. It's really no good in my brother's hands. There was something time sensitive in the last mailer that my dad had to physically drive down to his place a few weeks earlier than he had planned to to read himself when my brother said he couldn't find any dates on it.
Fortunately, my dad is very meticulous about making the plans out for how to take care of all of this stuff. When he goes, there is no way my brother will be able to do any of it himself and he will need my other brother and I to do it for him.
Guess I'm making all this room for a new mountain of paperwork when that time comes.
Do Right, Be Right. - SIX
I've been wanting to do this for years but just haven't been able to what with all the moving around and my stuff having to go into storage for a bit.
I do. It's good going through the clutter that my mom forgot about and seeing what happened around the time I was born and before.
Your brother is lucky to have you and your dad to do this stuff for him. Paperwork with ANY government agency is a pain in the butt. Doesn't matter what side of the line you are on.
My dad had a fight to get one of his pensions. My poor mom had to go on a letter writing campaign to get a copy of his birth certificate from Alberta, a letter from his oldest sister but the hospital he was born in burned down and so those records were gone. The school he attended would have been gone by the late 60s out there. Think she had to write one of his aunts as well. Good thing they still had his army discharge papers to help. BRENDA
The paperwork is a nightmare, the bureaucracy is bumbling, but it's intended to prevent fraud and abuse. Can you imagine what would happen if there were no controls whatsoever on who got government money? A it is, there is STILL quite a bit of fraud and abuse in the system ... I recall sitting in the Social Security office for dear daughter's re-evaluation of disability and looking at the other people sitting there and thinking ... what the hell is wrong with THEM? I just personally became aware that someone I met is collecting $1600/mo of my taxpayer's money for a disability that doesn't exist. It's furstrating and inefficient, but if anyone can think of a better way please let me know.
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Pity would be no more,
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It's a good thing BRENDA that your things finally came out of storage and you get to sort thru them. I'm still pleased beyond what I can express that you're out of that dark, dank, substandard hole that you were in, and in a place that has room, light, and functional utilities! Happy sorting!
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Pity would be no more,
If we did not MAKE men poor - William Blake
You idiots have been oppressing the entire sexual spectrum as long as you have existed. I can't wait for the day your kind is dead - WISHIMAY
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Originally posted by SIGNYM:
It's a good thing BRENDA that your things finally came out of storage and you get to sort thru them. I'm still pleased beyond what I can express that you're out of that dark, dank, substandard hole that you were in, and in a place that has room, light, and functional utilities! Happy sorting!
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Pity would be no more,
If we did not MAKE men poor - William Blake
You idiots have been oppressing the entire sexual spectrum as long as you have existed. I can't wait for the day your kind is dead - WISHIMAY
Oddly enough I do enjoy the sorting and even the shredding. I was absolutely giddy when I got a kitchen table and chairs.
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