In the garden, and RAIN!!! (2)
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Quote:I'm sorry to hear that, SIX. I guessed your family got bad news and was taking time to digest it.
Originally posted by 6IXSTRINGJACK:
Grams has terminal cancer... :(
Hospice is getting everything set up for her at home tomorrow morning and she'll be back home for good in the afternoon. She's going to need 24/7 coverage now and they're saying six months, but both my dad and aunt told me with how she looks right now after having a spigot put in her to drain the fluid they don't think it will be more than a few weeks. I'm hoping she was just dosed with something for the operation and once she gets cleaned up she'll at least look like she did before and hopefully the breathing is better now that she was drained again.
I'll be spending a lot of time over there helping out. I'll check in when I can.
Hope you're both doing well.
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I'm sure she'll improve once the anesthesia wears off. It can take a LOOOONG time for older people .. a couple of weeks, sometimes more ... to fully clear from the system. Can cause hallucinations or aggression, but once that goes away your g'ma will probably perk up and be more herself.
Cancer doctors are usually pretty accurate on someone's timeline. I expect that your g'ma still has a number of good months ahead if her. If there's something that she needs to do, like write a will, now's the time. Take pictures of her now, so youll have something good to remember her with.
Hubby and I nursed his mom thru a number of illnesses and finally thru her terminal cancer. Sometimes nothing can be done except make your family member as comfortable as possible.
I don't know how much pain she'll be in. Cancer isn't generally painful unless it metastaticizes to bone. But if she's in pain or is gasping for breath, don't spare the painkillers. They come in various forms and even if can't be administered orally can be given under the tongue (as a liquid) or even rectally (as a pill, gel, or liquid.)
It's tough to watch someone die slowly. The experience will leave sad and indelible memories, but eventually you'll remember happier times.
I'm here for you even if you just want to unload.
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Pity would be no more,
If we did not MAKE someone poor - William Blake
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I appreciate that Sigs. 
I've been the one voice of positivity this whole time and I'm trying to keep doing it. I don't think it's really hit me yet. I should be taking this a lot harder than I am right now, but I've got some obligations I'm going to be powering through until the weekend is over then I'm going over to her place for a few days and nights and I'm hoping that she's at least still with it enough to watch those movies I got for her. I told everybody to let me know if anything takes a swift downturn for the worse in the meantime and I'll break my obligations and get out there right away. I won't know more until I'm there with her and get a feel for how she's going to be when she's back home.
Her attitude about everything is making this easier to deal with. She's not scared at all. She KNOWS where she's going, and she's happy to be going there. I've never seen somebody so unafraid of death in my life.
She's a great woman. The world is going to be just a little bit dimmer without her when she's gone.
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Originally posted by SIGNYM:Quote:
Originally posted by Brenda:Quote:
Originally posted by SIGNYM:
Well, I got us all scheduled for eye and dental exams. I'll also be scheduled for additional tests to check some sore spots to rule out (or rule in?) cancer.
It occurred to me that next year I'll be 70. Wow. I still think of myself as in my early 60s. Time to update the mental calendar!
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Pity would be no more,
If we did not MAKE someone poor - William Blake
Also I am finding these last two weeks of February draaging. I just want to get my next dental appointment over with. My mouth has to be measured for the denture and I have a terrible feeling it means a plaster mold. Yuck! Went through that in high school for braces.
Oh, you had braces too? I didn't feel like I needed them but my parents thought I did!
February drags for me in general. After all the holidays and birthdays from early October all the way thru Jan 1, February feels flat. It's still winter, not yet spring and there's nothing to look forward to.
Once upon a time, before life derailed me, I used the schedule our "yearly" appointments for February to break up the monotony. That would place any six-month appointments in August which, IMHO, also sucks.
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Pity would be no more,
If we did not MAKE someone poor - William Blake
Yeah, I did and I knew I needed them. What a pain and a nuisance they were.
In my case the end of January smacked in the face before I even knew it. Usually January drags for me but not this year. I have the dentist this month and then sometime in March a mammogram that has to be booked. Also more dental because once I get the denture then it has to be fitted and stuff. I've got appointments booked into May.
If I am lucky then in June or July, I might be able to get out to Alberta for a bit. I hope so. I need a break.
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Originally posted by 6IXSTRINGJACK:
Grams has terminal cancer... :(
Hospice is getting everything set up for her at home tomorrow morning and she'll be back home for good in the afternoon. She's going to need 24/7 coverage now and they're saying six months, but both my dad and aunt told me with how she looks right now after having a spigot put in her to drain the fluid they don't think it will be more than a few weeks. I'm hoping she was just dosed with something for the operation and once she gets cleaned up she'll at least look like she did before and hopefully the breathing is better now that she was drained again.
I'll be spending a lot of time over there helping out. I'll check in when I can.
Hope you're both doing well.
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Growing up in a Republic was nice... Shame we couldn't keep it.
I am so sorry to hear that SIX. That is hard work for all the family and hospice is the best for 24/7 care.
*Hugs* to you and your family.
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I'm sure you've thought of this, but on the practical side, at some point your g'ma is going to need to be downstairs and near a bathroom.
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Originally posted by Brenda:
I am so sorry to hear that SIX. That is hard work for all the family and hospice is the best for 24/7 care.
*Hugs* to you and your family.
Thanks Brenda.
We'll circle the wagons and figure it out.
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Originally posted by SIGNYM:
I'm sure you've thought of this, but on the practical side, at some point your g'ma is going to need to be downstairs and near a bathroom.
She's on the first floor and the bathroom is right next to her bedroom.
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Originally posted by 6IXSTRINGJACK:Quote:
Originally posted by Brenda:
I am so sorry to hear that SIX. That is hard work for all the family and hospice is the best for 24/7 care.
*Hugs* to you and your family.
Thanks Brenda.
We'll circle the wagons and figure it out.
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I'm sure you and your family will.
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I'm off to mah jong in the morning.
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Originally posted by 6IXSTRINGJACK:Quote:
Originally posted by SIGNYM:
I'm sure you've thought of this, but on the practical side, at some point your g'ma is going to need to be downstairs and near a bathroom.
She's on the first floor and the bathroom is right next to her bedroom.
Oh... And I talked to my Aunt and I'm going to be moving all of her stuff downstairs in a room right off the kitchen that we cleared out last year. She brought her mattress down and she's been sleeping in the living room on it since Friday night.
I'll probably be staying over one or two nights per week so my Dad doesn't have to stay all day 5 days a week while my aunt is working. It doesn't sound like my uncle has any plans of taking any days off of work, and my other aunt (his wife) is probably going to be wearing a mask for the rest of her life and probably won't be any help since she was barely at the hospital at all in the last two weeks.
Since I'm sure I'd be really bored staying there that often at one time in a house that has tech limited to things that were made in the 1980s and without internet, I can also spend some of that time cleaning things up and clearing some stuff out that my aunt and I haven't already gotten to.
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Originally posted by Brenda:Quote:
Originally posted by 6IXSTRINGJACK:Quote:
Originally posted by Brenda:
I am so sorry to hear that SIX. That is hard work for all the family and hospice is the best for 24/7 care.
*Hugs* to you and your family.
Thanks Brenda.
We'll circle the wagons and figure it out.
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I'm sure you and your family will.
It just occurred to me that possibly could have been offensive to you, Brenda. You know that normally I wouldn't care about political correctness, but I do like you very much and I'd hate to think that the use of an idiom I grew up with pissed you off.
I was just telling my grandma a while back that my hips sometimes hurt when I'm working on the computer too long and I'm sitting Indian Style on my futon, and then I said I probably shouldn't call it that anymore.
Old habits die hard.
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Originally posted by 6IXSTRINGJACK:Quote:
Originally posted by 6IXSTRINGJACK:Quote:
Originally posted by SIGNYM:
I'm sure you've thought of this, but on the practical side, at some point your g'ma is going to need to be downstairs and near a bathroom.
She's on the first floor and the bathroom is right next to her bedroom.
Oh... And I talked to my Aunt and I'm going to be moving all of her stuff downstairs in a room right off the kitchen that we cleared out last year. She brought her mattress down and she's been sleeping in the living room on it since Friday night.
I'll probably be staying over one or two nights per week so my Dad doesn't have to stay all day 5 days a week while my aunt is working. It doesn't sound like my uncle has any plans of taking any days off of work, and my other aunt (his wife) is probably going to be wearing a mask for the rest of her life and probably won't be any help since she was barely at the hospital at all in the last two weeks.
Since I'm sure I'd be really bored staying there that often at one time in a house that has tech limited to things that were made in the 1980s and without internet, I can also spend some of that time cleaning things up and clearing some stuff out that my aunt and I haven't already gotten to.Quote:
Originally posted by Brenda:Quote:
Originally posted by 6IXSTRINGJACK:Quote:
Originally posted by Brenda:
I am so sorry to hear that SIX. That is hard work for all the family and hospice is the best for 24/7 care.
*Hugs* to you and your family.
Thanks Brenda.
We'll circle the wagons and figure it out.
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Growing up in a Republic was nice... Shame we couldn't keep it.
I'm sure you and your family will.
It just occurred to me that possibly could have been offensive to you, Brenda. You know that normally I wouldn't care about political correctness, but I do like you very much and I'd hate to think that the use of an idiom I grew up with pissed you off.
I was just telling my grandma a while back that my hips sometimes hurt when I'm working on the computer too long and I'm sitting Indian Style on my futon, and then I said I probably shouldn't call it that anymore.
Old habits die hard.
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Growing up in a Republic was nice... Shame we couldn't keep it.
SIX, I also heard that idiom a bit growing up. So no offence taken. I was fine with it and took it in the spirit that you meant as that your family will come together and get it done for your grandmother.
They do die hard.
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