In the garden, and RAIN!!!!
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Take a breath, Brenda.
This is a happy day. Moving sucks big time. Everything's going to be fine.
Do Right, Be Right. :)
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Quote:I'm glad for you.
Originally posted by BRENDA:
I'm moved and for a minute coming to you from my local library.
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I agree with SIX - moving is a pain!! I hope you're settling in comfortably BRENDA.
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Pity would be no more,
If we did not MAKE men poor - William Blake
"The messy American environment, where most people don't agree, is perfect for people like me. I CAN DO AS I PLEASE." - SECOND
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Hey SIX, how's the reno going?
More importantly, how are things with the folks? I don't understand this move that they're making, it DOES seem pretty implusive and maybe not the greatest decision ever. I hope things turn out alright for both of them ... especially your mom, since it sounds like she might be isolated from any family support she would enjoy in IN. If I were in your shoes I'd be hurt. But it seems to me that you realize that you can't control their decisions, and it sounds like you're aware enuf not to make her possible isolation worse by lashing out and freezing them out so I think you're doing everything you can. If it makes any difference, I feel for you. You have my virtual sympathy.
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Pity would be no more,
If we did not MAKE men poor - William Blake
"The messy American environment, where most people don't agree, is perfect for people like me. I CAN DO AS I PLEASE." - SECOND
America is an oligarchy http://www.fireflyfans.net/mthread.aspx?tid=57876 .
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Well, I finally got the big back bedroom walls painted. I can only devote a few hours every other day before I have to run off and shop, or walk the dog, or take someone to the doctor, or do yardwork, or cook, or something. Plus, I had to seal the walls first. But the walls look great, it's the softest off-gray I could find; very relaxing. The trim will be bright white and the ceiling a soft white with a hint of green. It will look cool in hot weather. Now I have to get curtain rods and drapes.
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Pity would be no more,
If we did not MAKE men poor - William Blake
"The messy American environment, where most people don't agree, is perfect for people like me. I CAN DO AS I PLEASE." - SECOND
America is an oligarchy http://www.fireflyfans.net/mthread.aspx?tid=57876 .
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Originally posted by SIGNYM:
Hey SIX, how's the reno going?
More importantly, how are things with the folks? I don't understand this move that they're making, it DOES seem pretty implusive and maybe not the greatest decision ever. I hope things turn out alright for both of them ... especially your mom, since it sounds like she might be isolated from any family support she would enjoy in IN. If I were in your shoes I'd be hurt. But it seems to me that you realize that you can't control their decisions, and it sounds like you're aware enuf not to make her possible isolation worse by lashing out and freezing them out so I think you're doing everything you can. If it makes any difference, I feel for you. You have my virtual sympathy.
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Pity would be no more,
If we did not MAKE men poor - William Blake
"The messy American environment, where most people don't agree, is perfect for people like me. I CAN DO AS I PLEASE." - SECOND
America is an oligarchy http://www.fireflyfans.net/mthread.aspx?tid=57876 .
The situation on both fronts isn't good, which is largely why I haven't posted anything about either of them. :(
The job has turned out to be more than I would be able to do myself. I have to make a choice now of getting professional help involved, or tearing down the porch. There was decades of structural damage beneath the walls and floor. I've been able to get under there and see that it stops 5 to 7 feet before the house, so I'm not really concerned that the only thing holding up the walls are the sheetrock in the home proper, but the terrible job these weekend warriors did on this addition back in the days where you didn't need to pull permits for such work is appalling. It's amazing to me that from the street you still can't see any evidence that something is amiss.
They really did a good job hiding the shoddy work too. I went for years not knowing what lied beneath and it wasn't until the floor started crumbling beneath it that I even had a clue.
I've been stressing heavily about this, but I'm formulating a plan right now. I've been thinking more and more about moving down by my brother to take some of the burden off my old man and to give him the peace of knowing that he's got family close by when he's no longer with us. This is way too much house for one person. There are houses within walking distance of my brother that are really nice 2 bed/1bath places with lawns that would take 15 minutes to mow instead of nearly 2 hours. They're reasonably priced, and if I could get double what I paid for my current place by putting $30-$40k into this place, I could still make money on it aside from living rent free for the last 8 years. Doubling what I bought it for isn't unreasonable either. It would still put the asking price around $13k less than what the previous owners had paid in 2006.
I love it down by where he lives. There isn't much surrounding the area, but the town does have a population over 15,000 people and it's not too far from Peoria. Plenty to do, and they've got great internet down there too.
I'm trying to look at the positives here. This porch scenario might be the catalyst to start the next chapter of my life. I've felt this house has been an albatross around my neck for years, and now it's finally coming to a head.
Do Right, Be Right. :)
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What's the haps at the McJob?
How far does your niece live now? How far from Peoria? Are you talking Normal?
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Quote:
Hey SIX, how's the reno going?
More importantly, how are things with the folks? I don't understand this move that they're making, it DOES seem pretty implusive and maybe not the greatest decision ever. I hope things turn out alright for both of them ... especially your mom, since it sounds like she might be isolated from any family support she would enjoy in IN. If I were in your shoes I'd be hurt. But it seems to me that you realize that you can't control their decisions, and it sounds like you're aware enuf not to make her possible isolation worse by lashing out and freezing them out so I think you're doing everything you can. If it makes any difference, I feel for you. You have my virtual sympathy. SIGNY
The situation on both fronts isn't good, which is largely why I haven't posted anything about either of them. :(
The job has turned out to be more than I would be able to do myself. I have to make a choice now of getting professional help involved, or tearing down the porch. There was decades of structural damage beneath the walls and floor. I've been able to get under there and see that it stops 5 to 7 feet before the house, so I'm not really concerned that the only thing holding up the walls are the sheetrock in the home proper, but the terrible job these weekend warriors did on this addition back in the days where you didn't need to pull permits for such work is appalling. It's amazing to me that from the street you still can't see any evidence that something is amiss.
They really did a good job hiding the shoddy work too. I went for years not knowing what lied beneath and it wasn't until the floor started crumbling beneath it that I even had a clue.
I've been stressing heavily about this, but I'm formulating a plan right now. I've been thinking more and more about moving down by my brother to take some of the burden off my old man and to give him the peace of knowing that he's got family close by when he's no longer with us. This is way too much house for one person. There are houses within walking distance of my brother that are really nice 2 bed/1bath places with lawns that would take 15 minutes to mow instead of nearly 2 hours. They're reasonably priced, and if I could get double what I paid for my current place by putting $30-$40k into this place, I could still make money on it aside from living rent free for the last 8 years. Doubling what I bought it for isn't unreasonable either. It would still put the asking price around $13k less than what the previous owners had paid in 2006.
I love it down by where he lives. There isn't much surrounding the area, but the town does have a population over 15,000 people and it's not too far from Peoria. Plenty to do, and they've got great internet down there too.
I'm trying to look at the positives here. This porch scenario might be the catalyst to start the next chapter of my life. I've felt this house has been an albatross around my neck for years, and now it's finally coming to a head. -SIX
I can't really offer any pearls of wisdom, but I do have a few opinions.
In another thread, you posted about "painting yourself into a corner". Let me point out that a house is a refuge, and investment, AND an anchor. In your case, your house was what kept you from being HOMELESS. I KNOW homeless people and, trust me, you don't want to be one. Don't ever think that having a home was ever a mistake; Consider your other options at the time: rent? homelessness? Have no regrets: It was absolutely the right thing for you at the time.
It may even be the right thing for you into the future ... it's the magnitude of repairs combined with familial desertion that's throwing you for a loop. You won't be able to cure the desertion by your mom and FIL. No matter where you move .., unless you move to FL ... you will still be far away from them. And IF you move, you will no longer need t
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Originally posted by SIGNYM:
Hooray!!! BRENDA! One big step forward!!
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Pity would be no more,
If we did not MAKE men poor - William Blake
"The messy American environment, where most people don't agree, is perfect for people like me. I CAN DO AS I PLEASE." - SECOND
America is an oligarchy http://www.fireflyfans.net/mthread.aspx?tid=57876 .
Yup, movers were late though. So took longer than I anticipated.
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Originally posted by 6IXSTRINGJACK:
Take a breath, Brenda.
This is a happy day. Moving sucks big time. Everything's going to be fine.
Do Right, Be Right. :)
Still deep breathing even after a week. Believe it or not.
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