Trouble
POSTED BY: Wulfenstar
UPDATED: Monday, April 9, 2012 04:37
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Originally posted by AnthonyT:
Hello,
You've been told many valuable things by people here.
You are not interested.
You see only the evils you have known. You hear only the echoes of old voices.
Your request for help is either not genuine, or you are so broken inside that you can not hear the answers.
You sadly speak of things like martial defense and politeness and open-mindedness as though they are some alien oil and water mixture that you need mysterious alchemical skills to combine.
You speak as though treating people as equals and defending yourself against aggression are two opposing philosophies.
You speak of the 'bourgeois' and the 'liberal' and the 'hippie' and you sound to me like a child still railing against your parents.
These are the kinds of things that confirm to me that Wulfie is not exactly a "people person". Railing against "somnambulant sheeple", talking down to people as if it's just a given that everyone else in his world is somehow *less than* Wulfie. He's like that socially retarded boss most of us have had at one point, who rails against his employees, belittling them and haranguing them, and then wonders aloud why company morale is so low and turnover so high.
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It's time to grow up and become a whole person. It's time to stop defining yourself by the resentment you feel for your parents.
It's time to be a better you.
That's the secret to raising good children. Because they will watch you while becoming who they are.
Wulfie's been given a ton of good advice in this thread, and he belittles everyone here for offering what he seemed to be sincere in asking for.
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"Wulfie's been given a ton of good advice in this thread, and he belittles everyone here for offering what he seemed to be sincere in asking for."
Actually, I'm looking more for Independents advice, not Alliance. If that makes sense.
"Hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things, and no good thing ever dies"
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No, it doesn't make sense. It sounds like you're waiting for advice that matches with what you want to hear. That's not "advice", that's confirmation of what you already think you know.
Son, there are a lot of smart people here who have had experiences both good and bad, many of which would equal or top yours- if this were a contest. EVERYONE here seems to be telling you in one way or another that you're starting off wrong, and yet all you can seem to do is plug your ears and go la-la-la. I can't hear you.
You're not ready for a child. I hope you're ready for her before she's ready for you, and I hope your wife is readier than you are.
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Look.
My baby girl will be fine.
I just want her to be able to function in the world that is... different.
Honestly, the only places I'm worried for her would be the NorthEast, CA, Chicago and Austin.
Other than that, she will be well done.
"Hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things, and no good thing ever dies"
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It's really a shame you can't hear all of what's being offered to you, Wulf. A shame for your helpless baby most of all.Quote:
I don't know who you think the "bourgeois" ARE exactly. Everyone but you, or something? "Talk it out" isn't bourgeois, and she'll have about a thousand times more experiences which call for decency than she ever will which call for the kind of mentality you espouse.
Also, as I've learned the hard way, hippie bullshit doesn't work.
So leave the "talk it out", "report it", "everyone is the same" garbage out.
How do you teach a girl to defend herself, but to also live among people who are the bourgeois?
In effect, to be prom queen in some school, but still be able to beat anyones ass? While also being a kind person?
That's part of why I don't think you're for real. You mentioned having the new baby, and that she'd be able to whop anyone who picked on her, almost immediately. Now you're ostensibly asking for help, yet rejecting it out of hand in a way that totally negates your original request.
If there really is a baby, your attitude is dooming her, period. Do you really want her to grow up thinking everything is bad and black, as you apparently do? Being afraid of everything, thinking she needs to go through life looking for every possible situation in which she'd have to defend herself? Life is FAR more than that; preparing only for that truly does doom her.
Your parents didn't represent "liberals", they were two people and you've let what you experienced of them tar your entire view of life. You won't believe me, but you and she would be far safer, happier and have a far richer life here in California, yet you SAY you fear this place for her. That is so insane it belies any common sense. That's why, in this as so much else, I find it so hard to believe you are who you say you are. And won't you be having a good old laugh reading us all trying to help someone who doesn't even exist. Gawd, I hope she DOESN'T!
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Sorry, Niki, I'm as real as can be.
Never tried to hide it.
I really was looking for help here, on how to raise a child outside of what I've learned. Mayhaps I know I'm not the god of all things. Nor do I know all things ever.
I know a few things well, and so will my daughter. But she needs more than I can give her. NOT platitudes and hippie nonsense. But how to actually live outside of what I have experienced.
You will never know this question. Huskies aren't children.
But to raise a young human, in the right way, you need lots of input.
So again... where is the line? Teach them to protect themselves, yes. But to live with everyone? How do you teach them to hit the arterial, and to also wear a dress?
To cut the right line, but to smile when they receive a compliment?
The balance is what I'm looking for. Too far in either direction is loneliness and sadness, as any internet troll could tell you.
"Hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things, and no good thing ever dies"
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That's assinine. You forget; I helped raise my husband's two children, which weren't even MINE. One had severe emotional problems and I loved him, wept for him and dealt with him while Jim hid in his room and drank himself into a stupor, and the other was only ten years younger than I. You haven't even BEGUN to raise a child; giving birth means nothing. It's what you do afterward, and from the sound of it, you haven't even begun to seriously consider what needs doing. I have had years of experience raising a child and have watched that child grow into his forties; you have absolutely none. Your condescencion is offensive and appalling.
You will never know this question. Huskies aren't children.
If you care about that child at all, TRY to open your mind and LEARN. Read...do something but reject every ounce of sensible help people here are trying to offer you.
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Quote:Or Canada, Europe, Australia, China, Russia, all of South and Central America, or anyplace other than Middle of Nowhere, USA?
Honestly, the only places I'm worried for her would be the NorthEast, CA, Chicago and Austin.
You're really not here for advice, you're just here to tell us what a hero you are. YAWN! We've seen the youtube videos already. Whenever you really feel like getting advice, feel free to ask. But don't think we're so stupid we believe you.
Oh, and BTW... if this is how you handled your childhood, no wonder you got beat up.
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Can you say 'train wreck'? Sure you can.
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Originally posted by Wulfenstar:
Look.
My baby girl will be fine.
I just want her to be able to function in the world that is... different.
Honestly, the only places I'm worried for her would be the NorthEast, CA, Chicago and Austin.
Other than that, she will be well done.
"Hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things, and no good thing ever dies"
In other words, anywhere where anything positive is happening.
I get it; you want your little girl to be every bit as backwards and brain-fucked as you are. You're off to a great start.
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