Male and Female Imponderables -- Love Rollercoaster
POSTED BY: Whimsicalnbrainpan
UPDATED: Wednesday, November 22, 2006 05:58
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Old thread: http://www.fireflyfans.net/thread.asp?b=2&t=25325
So we were talking marriage in the last thread and I have an imponderable that relates to that issue in a way. If it has been asked before please forgive. When you are in love do you think you'll know if they are "the one". I know that love takes work and is not at all like a fairy tale but when should any doubts be taken seriously?
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That's a very good question, Whims! I think the problem is that everyone's different, so I can only answer it for me. When I should start taking my doubts seriously is when I feel sick. If the doubts are enough to make me so stressed that I'm manifesting it, I should pay attention to them. Whether I do or not... Well, I'm getting better with that. Invariably, though, even if I ignore it when I get to that point, it doesn't make a difference because the end is nigh. At least in my experience so far...
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ummmmm..ok, i really have no answer to the ponderable..i just wanted to say hi to everyone....
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well, i'd be lying if i said i had much by way of comment to offer in the field of marriage or even just serious relationships, but i thought i'd pop in just to say whooja anyway
well, except insofar as deadly serious relationships, but that's a whole 'nother story, for another time and another topic 
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To him whose eyes are cast
On things around him with a ray
Turned back upon the past?
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Forgive me for this and if I blunder any lines but I can't resist:
"Mawwiage. Mawwiage is what bwings us togevah today. Mawwiage, that bwessed awwangement, that dweam...within a dweam."
Seriously, I'm not going to give my thoughts on mawwiage - er, marriage - as I'm not really ready for that yet. I'd be looking more towards dating and getting to know someone first and I haven't had a lot of luck with that either. As Forrest Gump would say, "That's all I have to say about that."
EDIT: I forgot to add this - I'm wondering why this thread keeps hopping between General Discussion and Talk Story. I'd like to ask that we all decide where we'd like it kept and have it posted in one section continuously rather than hopping back and forth - gets kind of confusing to find the new threads. Thanks.
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OK... ponder... ponder... ponder...
Nico - I think we did kind of cover this - but more recently so you might not have got up to it yet - but I think I said something along the lines that it matters to me that I make a commitment and include family and friends to not only witness that commitment but commit to supporting 'us' in it as well... I have taken that promise seriously for friends who's weddings I attended and they said they really appreciated that aspect of my friendship... I would be happy to take on my spouses name and the way I feel about it is that it marks the next stage of your life - when you are part of a new neuclear family rather than the one you grew up in... I think I have mentioned that my sister is in a de facto relationship but changed her name to her partner's so that her kids had a sense of 'family identity' ... something that I think gets a little overlooked these days...
Hmmmm... I really don't know about the other aspect Whimsy... although I met someone in my 20s who might have been 'the one' if I had continued on that course - I don't believe I have completely missed my chance of happiness with someone - there must be more than one person in this world of 6,558,135,408 people ( http://www.census.gov/ipc/www/popclockworld.html if you want to check it out - it changes every day...) I know that I have seriously dated men whom I knew in my heart weren't the one... and others whom I wasn't really convinced were and wasn't devastated when they really weren't...
Does that make sense to you?
Hmmmm - the other thing I forgot to ponder was 'breakfast food', sorry my gorgeous MsG I used to party all night in my 20s and one of my favourite things was souvlaki! Greek giro-styel grilled lamb with tomatoes and lettuce and a yoghurt/garlic sauce to die for and all wrapped in flat bread... oh dear... is it right to crave that now..? When I am about to go to bed... 
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mornin Imponderables.
I think that you can definitely think that someone is "the one" and then have feelings that prove otherwise, and I like PR's description of it manifesting itself physically when there is a problem. I have though I was in love several times, was actually 'in love' with my wife (there were 2 others I was 'in love' with), but recently have admitted to myself and to her that that is no longer the case, as she did with me almost a year ago. I still love and care for her, just the 'in love' part is long gone. We want to get it back though, but that is going to take a lot of work and might alreayd be too late.
McQ - LOL @ mawwiage
magda - mornin babe. You made me hungry with your description. I can only hope that my cheese grits will sate the hunger you created by talking about one of my favorite dishes. :)
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Boy, and I thought somebody was going to tear into me for the Marriage vent I threw. I guess nobody even noticed it.
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I have naught to say on this topic, although I may come up with an answer at some point.
I do have a question that I have yet to find an answer for in the archives, namely: why must females require two or more people to visit the restrooms at any one time? Is it fear of being jumped on the way there? Is it (and this is aimed more at the school kiddies) so that you can share a cigarette or have one person standing watch?
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I noticed it James, but everyone is entitled to their own opinion, and my own wasn't even close to popular with this group.
I do like the idea of a Common Sense political party, but I don't see it happening, as the people and corporations who fund the politicians seem to be staunchly against it.
~Jimi
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