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How Do You handle Death?
POSTED BY: RiveR6213
UPDATED: Sunday, January 18, 2009 19:09
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Sunday, January 18, 2009 7:09 PM
River
First, I wanted to thank you for a very thoughtful response, and a very thoughtful insightful thread.
[edit]I thought that my response revive this, but I see it was in "general" and so it got quickly burried, and I missed it. A lot of people having been looking for a place to talk without getting the intervening bagels. I thought hidden threads would work. Hmm. Food for thought. Hopefully jizz-free food. 
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You are a very wordy one Dreamtrove.
Lol. So very true. It's part of my communication plan for the year, to work on this.
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Your story is very interesting. It's very sad, and makes a person's guts (Mine) twist and turn just reading it. It appears that you have been on a dramatic, life's, journey. The fact that you are not on top of a roof with a sniper's rifle leads me to have some admiration for you. My experiences are pretty nasty, but my experiences appears to not hold a candle to yours. I do not know who I would be now if I had had your experiences.
I just watched elvenlied, and if you aren't bothered by an excessive amount of violence and female nudity, it's a very good anime, dealing with the nature of killers, death. Frem brought it up, re: redemption, I'm not sure what it says about redemption. I guess the characters overall ability to forgive is powerful, believable, and startling, and also somewhat refreshing. The main male character has a similar experience with the mental block, and I think this may be the evolution of the mental block, to prevent it from altering you, until you have time to reflect.
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You strike me as the sort of person that gives everything in your life a serious moment of real consideration, and don't allow things to pass you by without an opinion regarding it. I would have to say that you are a very strong person, but it also makes me wonder that your surviving so much in your life that you've might have become the person you currently don't want to be? I could be wrong, but mind wrenching experiences does have the nasty habit of changing who we are.
I have to say, there were definitely moments in my life when I thought I would crack. I don't think there will be again. I've become very contemplative. I don't think this is necessarily faith based, but learning through contemplation, and perhaps envy of people more contemplative. The natural human tendency is probably to lash out at anything which threatens us, or to diminish us, marginalize us, etc.
On forum posts sometimes I voice strong opinions, but I generally do so to sway the tenor. Communication involving multiple humans is always on the verge of becoming the Titanic. I noticed fairly early on in life that there seems to be a critical level somewhere around 5, probably "family sized" under which people can communicate without degenerating into a feeding frenzy. Some people intentionally lob grenades into the frey just to watch the fireworks. I tend to try to be... not quite the guy with his hand up in front of the tank, that's too confrontational for me, I find confrontations tend to forge wars, but more to deflect away from self and mutually destructive arguments towards ones of substance.
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As far as death is concerned (Seeing that is what this thread is about) since I last posted on this forum I lost 2 more people that I knew very well. One of them I rather liked a lot, and the other I sort of hated, but had to deal with them all the time to the point where i got to know them. I would have to say that after all the people I have lost in my life I really don't, or no longer feel that I need to "handle death" because death is going to come to you, or your friends, and family whether you are ready for it of not; whether you can handle it or not. it's going to come, so I guess I don't handle death. I don't see any reason to handle it. People die and that's just how things go.
-River
Two recent events that have me not knowing how to feel:
1. A friend of mine died. He was one of my military friends, he was discharged, and died short
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